Selfyontology
Serious self-study, taken lightly.
Category: Project Set-up
All the pre-work to get the Selfyontology project up and running.
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Selfyontology Final Project Prep We’re in the last few days of project set-up, right before launching into Selfyontology proper. I’m excited, nervous, and anticipating a lot of personal growth—partly through the power of reflective writing and partly through navigating the vulnerability and ego tug-of-war happening every time I hit “post.” So I’m using this in-between…
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I shared the video below on my Instagram a few days ago, describing Selfyontology and mentioning just briefly that one of the reasons this self-study project is coming into fruition now might just be because I’m 37. Why I’m Noticing My Cornerstone Years When you look back at your life, can you see your cornerstone…
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Selfy-what? What even is Ontology? Ever feel like “you” are made of up different parts that don’t quite get along? You crave routine and consistency, but then get bored and choose spontaneity instead. Every muscle in your body just wants to collapse on the couch, but your heart wants play on the floor with the…
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Evolution of the Selfyontology Project over time. Alrighty, if you’ve been here since the beginning then you likely remember the very first version of The Project. The first draft was rough, based purely on intuition and spiraling, ping-pong midnight thoughts. Over the past several weeks, we have refined and organized our self-study plan into a…
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Why nurturing your Self is the wellspring of genuine Selflessness. The more Self-ish you become, the greater your capacity for Selflessness. Sounds wrong, right? Let me convince you. Defining Selflessness Part 1. What do we really mean when we talk about someone being selfless? The word Selflessness seems to imply a lack of self, a…
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Selflessness is the monthly theme/character trait at the school where I work. All the middle schoolers are learning it and practicing it. They got a lesson on Monday morning, they’re having a class meeting about it next Tuesday, they’re running a food drive, and they’re taking it deeper with small Selflessness challenges. The definition we…
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My 2 year old son is doing a new cute-bit lately where he enters a room or wakes up or gets into the car or YOU enter the room (basically realizes he’s in any new social moment) and says, “It’s me, Towney! I here!” It’s adorable and we all love it. Sometimes he’ll even follow…
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Years and years ago, I heard one of my favorite authors/speakers/philosophers share like a 5 minute bit about the philosophical implications of the selfie phenomenon. Or maybe I’m using those words wrong and its just philosophical-sounding observations that seem very insightful to me because I’m not a philosopher. Anyways, I’ve scoured the internet, re-listened to…
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Every time I write a thing I really like or feel proud of, I want to share it with people and hear what they think. I’ve got secret little baby hopes in my wannabe author’s heart that reading my words inspires, calms, heals, energizes, or confuses you. I’d love if we started a conversation or…
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What the hack is Selfyontology? It’s made up. Bear with me. I want to know myself better. To understand what makes me ME and how to just be me without simultaneously second-guessing motives, decisions, impacts. It would be great if I could afford enough psychoanalysis for an expert to provide me the answer… but I’m…
Written by Stephanie Tell
Stephanie writes to cope, to process, and to build small cairns along her life. She is a public school counselor, mom, partner, gardener, home-maker, friend, and someday author. Selfyontology is her first writing project with a larger intention: one year of structured curiosity and strategic investment in her most important relationship—the one with her Self.
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