Selfyontology
Serious self-study, taken lightly.
Category: Kick-off w/ the Basics
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Core Value #5: Spirituality I wanted to be near water when I sat to write about spirituality, and because today is a rare day off school that I’m also kid-free—I get to do just that. I parked my car view a water view and pulled out my laptop. The movement and forms of water have…
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Core Value #4 Meaningful Work There are differences between a job, an occupation, a career, and your vocation. When I talk with kids about their futures and the world of work, I usually describe them like this: One of my top five core values, as determined by my most recent values sort, is meaningful work.…
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Core Value #3: Honesty It’s Sunday evening and I’m fresh back from a weekend at the river cabin where we stay for a dear friend’s birthday weekend each winter—lots of natural beauty and very little phone service, which was a timely rejuvenation treatment for my soul. I did a little pre-writing for this post, sketching…
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Core Value #2: Friendship Last post was all about autonomy. Today, we’re moving on to friendship in this core values reflection series. In my office at school, there is a beautiful print featuring one of my favorite quotes. “We are all just walking each other home.” – Ram Dass. We’re all on a journey, walking…
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Core Value #1: Autonomy Instead of intimidating myself into continued procrastination—I’m choosing to just start writing. I was doing overwrought mental gymnastics trying to thematically group my top five values into just a couple of longer posts—something cohesive, reflective, meaningful. I imagined going back through time with each value (honesty, spirituality, meaningful work, friendship, and…
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Clarify your most important values using this free online tool. You’ve felt the dissonance before—that awful pulling in your heart or loud clanging in your mind or persistent twisting of your gut—when some part of your life doesn’t line up with who you really are, what you really want. That’s the feeling of incongruity—living a…
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It’s hard to think about the Self without getting into self actualization, which is an idea made popular by psychologist/researcher Abraham Maslow in the 1940s. You’ve probably heard of it because it’s a foundational concept in psychology and within the self-help realm. Pop Quiz! Without googling it or referencing anything, how would you define self…
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Next Step: Fold In The Cheese If you haven’t read part 1, it’s a good idea to go back and do that first. Or at least skim it. We covered why this wheel is useful for mapping the self and got into the nitty gritty details of pages 1-4. Now in part 2, we’ll finish…
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Using the Wheel of Power + Privilege It’s starting, it’s starting, it’s STARTING. We’re officially launched and starting with our planned reflection activities for January. First up is a very structured exercise in mapping out aspects of social identity using the Wheel of Power + Privilege. Using social identity wheels as a tool for self-reflection…
Written by Stephanie Tell
Stephanie writes to cope, to process, and to build small cairns along her life. She is a public school counselor, mom, partner, gardener, home-maker, friend, and someday author. Selfyontology is her first writing project with a larger intention: one year of structured curiosity and strategic investment in her most important relationship—the one with her Self.
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